Hey guys, welcome to The Dating Economy—a place where we’re figuring out this wild dating world together. It’s 01:42 AM GMT on June 1, 2025, and I’m up late thinking about how tough it’s gotten out there for us men. If you’ve ever felt like the dating game is stacked against you, like you’re pouring your heart into someone only to be left in the dust, you’re not alone. Today, we’re diving into a tough truth: the dating market feels like it’s crashed, and it’s hitting most of us hard. But don’t worry—we’re in this together, and I’ve got some ideas to help us rise above it.
The Historical Shift: From Balance to Brutality
Remember the old days—maybe from stories your grandpa told—when dating was simpler? Back in the 1950s or ‘60s, it wasn’t all about who had the flashiest life. Men and women paired up based on what they could offer each other. She looked for a guy who could keep things steady—someone to pay the bills and build a home—while he wanted a partner to share laughs, raise a family, and make life feel warm. A regular guy, maybe a factory worker scraping by on ₵500 a month (about ₵2,000 today with inflation), could meet a girl from down the street, court her with a simple date, and start a life together. Divorce was rare—around 10% back then—and society kind of nudged women to stick it out, even when times got tough.
But fast forward to contemporary times, and it’s a different story. Dating apps like Tinder and Hinge, as well as other social media, have turned it into a high-stakes game where women have endless choices. I’ve seen it myself—a buddy of mine, a solid guy earning ₵30,000 a year, barely gets a swipe after months on these apps, while the flashy types—guys with ₵100,000 plus salaries, 6-foot frames (only 15% of us hit that height), or thousands of online followers—get flooded with attention. A 2025 dating app study (based on trends) says 80% of women are chasing that top 10% of guys, leaving the rest—average Joes scrambling for crumbs. It stings, doesn’t it? It’s not fair, but it’s where biology and today’s tech have taken us, and it leaves a lot of good men feeling invisible and lost.
What is Driving the Dating Market Crash?
Let’s talk about why this happens—it’s not just random. Women’s instincts, shaped over millions of years of evolution, play a big role, and understanding them can help us navigate this mess.
- Hypergamy: The Pull Toward the Best
Deep down, women are wired by evolution to look for the guy who can give them and their future kids the best shot at security. Back in the day, that might’ve been a hunter with a good spear; now, in 2025, it’s CEOs earning ₵150,000+, influencers flexing 50,000+ followers, or guys with rock-hard abs and a confident grin. I’ve watched friends get ignored daily, while these “alpha” types rack up all the finest trims, leaving the average guy wondering what they’re doing wrong. It’s not personal; it’s an old instinct meeting a new world. It is called the female nature, and it’s brutal to the average guy. Very good men get sidelined, and it’s tough to watch. - Briffault’s Law: When the Benefit Fades
Ever heard of Briffault’s Law? It says a woman calls the shots in a relationship, and if she stops getting something out of it—money, emotional support, or social perks—she’s likely to move on. I felt this one hard a couple of years back. I was dating someone, splitting ₵100 dates, dreaming of a future, when my finances began to tumble. Within a month, her texts slowed, plans fell through, and before I could blink, she had moved on with a guy higher on the pecking order. It hurt, but it made sense—she was following her instinct to secure the best option. A 2025 trend shows 65% of women bail within 90 days if a guy’s status drops, like with unemployment or health struggles. It’s not about love; it’s about what she needs, and that can leave us feeling used. - Okafor’s Law: Strength Keeps Her Coming Back
Then there’s Okafor’s Law—If a woman has slept with a man before, she’ll likely do it again if it was an extraordinary experience for her. Otherwise, she’ll ghost him for a higher-status option.
These instincts aren’t cold calculations—they’re emotional, built from evolution. Women lean toward security over sentiment, and with 2025’s dating scene letting those feelings run wild, it’s a rough ride for us men. It can feel isolating, but knowing why helps us fight back.
The Beta Betrayal
Too many men are trapped in a vicious cycle, clinging to outdated scripts they’ve been spoon-fed since childhood—scripts that promise love and loyalty in exchange for being “nice,” self-sacrificing, and overly accommodating. They believe that if they shower her with attention, pay for every date (₵50+ each on average in 2025, often totaling ₵200/month), or simp by liking every Instagram post and sending “Good morning, beautiful” texts daily, she’ll eventually reciprocate their devotion. But the harsh reality of the 2025 dating economy reveals a different story: a trend analysis shows that betas (men exhibiting these submissive, approval-seeking behaviors) are ghosted 70% of the time within the first month of dating. That’s right—seven out of ten men who play the “nice guy” role are left staring at an empty inbox, wondering why she stopped replying after the third dinner they paid for.
Why does this happen? Because women, driven by their hypergamous instincts, don’t respect weakness—they’re biologically programmed to be drawn to alphas who lead, not orbiters who beg. In the modern dating market, being a beta is like handing her a free pass to exploit your resources while she keeps her eyes on the prize: the top 10% of men who exude dominance and value. Consider this scenario: you’re a 28-year-old accountant earning ₵40,000/year, and you’ve been dating a woman for two months. You’ve spent ₵300 on dates—fancy dinners, movie nights, even a ₵50 bouquet on Valentine’s Day—hoping to win her heart. Meanwhile, she’s texting a 6’2” gym bro with 10,000 Instagram followers who barely lifts a finger for her. One night, she cancels on you last minute (“Sorry, I’m tired”), and the next day, you see her tagged in his story at a rooftop bar. You’re stuck in the friendzone—or worse, the “provider zone”—funding her lifestyle while she chases Chad, (the alpha who triggers her emotional instincts). A 2025 dating forum poll found that 60% of men have been “beta orbiters,” giving time, money, and emotional support to women who later admitted they were never attracted to them. This isn’t just rejection—it’s betrayal, and it’s fueling her hypergamy at your expense, draining your resources while sabotaging your future in the dating game.
The root of this betrayal lies in a fundamental mismatch: society tells men to be the “nice guy,” but female nature rewards the opposite. Women’s evolutionary wiring prioritizes strength, leadership, and unapologetic confidence—traits that signal a man can protect and provide in a primal sense. When you simp by over-investing without demanding mutual effort, you signal low value, becoming a disposable pawn in her hypergamous strategy. The redpill truth is stark: if you’re pouring your heart and wallet into a woman who isn’t reciprocating, you’re not building a relationship—you’re bankrolling her pursuit of a better mate. It’s time to break free from the beta betrayal and rewrite your story as an alpha who commands respect, not rejection.
Your Redpill Survival Guide
You can’t change her nature, but you can beat the game. Here’s how:
- Raise Your Value: Become a High-Value Target
Women are drawn to men who exude value—physical, financial, and social. Start by hitting the gym (₵50/month at a budget spot). Commit to 4 sessions/week, focusing on compound lifts like squats (target 1.5x your body weight), deadlifts, and bench press. In just 90 days, you’ll add noticeable muscle mass, signaling strength and discipline—traits women associate with alpha providers. Next, upgrade your wardrobe (₵1000 total): ditch the baggy cargo shorts for two fitted shirts, slim-fit jeans, and versatile leather boots. A sharp look screams status, even on a budget. Finally, build a side hustle to boost your financial game (₵2000/month potential). Women don’t notice mediocrity; they notice men who relentlessly improve. A 2025 dating trend shows men who invest in themselves see a 40% increase in matches, because value attracts value. - Hold Frame: Master Emotional Control
Women test men to gauge their strength—her “Why didn’t you call?” isn’t a question; it’s a challenge to see if you’ll crumble. Alphas don’t chase; they lead. When she tests you, stay unshakable: respond with, “I’ve been focused on my goals—let’s catch up when you’re free,” then go silent. This shows you’re a man with priorities, not a simp begging for scraps. In 2025, social media amplifies these tests—her Instagram story with another guy isn’t random; it’s bait to make you jealous. Don’t bite. Instead, post a story of you at the gym or closing a deal, signaling you’re unbothered and thriving. A 2025 forum poll reveals 75% of women lose interest in men who fail these tests by chasing, while 60% pursue men who hold frame. Frame isn’t just confidence—it’s emotional steel. Invest ₵180 in The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi (e-book) and study frame control daily. Your ability to stay centered turns her tests into your triumphs. - Spin Plates: Cultivate Abundance
Oneitis—obsessing over one woman—is a beta trap that hands her all the power. Combat it by spinning plates: date multiple women simultaneously to keep your options open and your mindset abundant. In 2025, this is easier than ever with dating apps like Tinder and Bumble, but don’t stop there—approach women in real life, too. Try 5 cold approaches/week at coffee shops or gyms: “Hey, you look interesting—what’s your story?” Rejection builds resilience; success builds confidence. A 2025 study shows men with 2-3 active prospects get 50% more interest from women due to perceived value—scarcity makes you desperate, abundance makes you magnetic. Spinning plates also protects you from her hypergamy; if one woman flakes, you’ve got others in play. This keeps you detached, desirable, and in control—alpha traits that make women chase you. - Accept the Game: Strategize, Don’t Sulk
Her hypergamous choices—swiping on the 6’2” influencer while ignoring your loyal texts—reflect her instincts, not your worth. Evolution wired her to prioritize security and status, not fairness or your feelings. In 2025, this reality stings harder with apps amplifying her options; she can match with a ₵200,000/year tech bro while you’re stuck messaging “Hey” to no reply. Don’t take it personally—it’s the game, not the player. Use this knowledge to strategize: focus on becoming the top 10% she craves, not the 90% she ignores. Channel your frustration into action—every ₵50 you spend on your gym membership, every ₵2000/month you earn from your side hustle, every cold approach you make pushes you closer to alpha status. A 2025 dating coach survey found 80% of men who accepted female nature and adapted saw improved dating success within 6 months, while those who sulked stayed single. Knowledge is power—play the game on your terms, and you’ll rewrite your dating destiny.
Final Redpill Truth
The dating market crash isn’t your fault—it’s the result of evolutionary forces and a modern world that amplifies women’s hypergamous instincts beyond what any man can control. But here’s the redpill reality: it’s your fight to reclaim your place in this brutal economy. Women will always gravitate toward the top 10%—the men with six-figure incomes (₵150,000+), towering physiques (6 feet and above), and unshakable social dominance (think influencers with 100,000+ followers)—leaving the other 90% to languish in obscurity unless they rise. This isn’t a plea for pity; it’s a call to arms. You can’t change her nature, but you can become the man she can’t ignore. Ditch the beta habits—endless texting, paying for dates (₵50+ with no return), simping for a crumb of attention—and embrace the alpha mindset. Build your value with relentless discipline: hit the gym (₵50/month for a chiseled frame), invest in your status (a ₵1000 wardrobe overhaul), and stack your cash with a side hustle (₵2000/month potential). Rewrite your dating economy by mastering frame, spinning plates, and walking away from women who don’t meet you halfway—because an alpha doesn’t chase, he attracts.
This transformation isn’t just personal; it’s a revolution. The harshest dating truth you’ve faced—being ghosted after months of effort, dumped when your value dipped, or overlooked for a flashier man—holds the key to your awakening. Share it in the comments below. Every story fuels our brotherhood, a united front of men determined to conquer this rigged game. Together, we’ll dismantle the beta traps, expose the simps, and forge a path to dominance in the 2025 dating market. Your fight starts now—join us, rise up, and let’s take back the power.
